Never The Wife, Always The Mistress

I am sure that being in a relationship is one of the hardest things that someone can do in this point in time. There are so many options. If your significant other upsets you one day, you could just log into "insert one of the million of social networking possibilities" and find someone else to pacify your time until the one you are with stops being so 'crazy.' In my opinion though, being single is a lot more challenging.

There was once a time when I thought that love was a thing. That if you 'found the right person' then the rest of your life would somehow fall magically into place. In the last year, I have realized that this whole being in a relationship thing isn't what it's all cracked up to be.

Now, I am sure that some of you are going to read this and think that I am just a bitter 24 year old girl, which is half true. But since the last 'boyfriend' I had two years ago, being on the market has lead me to believe that nobody will ever be satisfied. Whether it's because they are selfish, insecure, or all of the above.

'Never the wife, always the mistress,' came to my mind when I thought about my relationship status in the past two years. It's not that extreme, I don't break up homes or sleep with people who are married. However, for some reason, I'm the girl the guys with the 'perfect' girlfriends call when they are having an off day. I'm the kind of girl that believes that I shouldn't have to wreck a home to have a relationship though, so I carry on with my day like these phone calls never happen. BUT, what about the girls who aren't like me? What about the girls who act on the phone calls and late night texts and stroke the so called 'mans' ego?

I have heard it all. Those who cheat, men and women both, are really good at what they do. It's like an art almost. They know how to have their cake and eat it too, which is impressive. I've been on both sides of the fence, I know how this works. 

I was once the girlfriend who put everything into a relationship, and was so blind at the thought of 'love' that I didn't see him sleeping with 3 girls behind my back. I mean, I didn't want to be the girl that was paranoid about guys nights...but maybe I should've been. 

I have also been the single, free spirit with a wild heart girl that when the road gets a little bumpy, and their love life gets a little boring, they call me because 'I know how to have fun.'

I don't want to be either one of those girls, though. I don't think anyone does. Life is already hard enough. We have to pay bills, stay fit, have a social life, overcome fears, work our ass off just to have a little fun...we shouldn't have to worry if the person we come home to every night is thinking about someone else when we aren't looking.

But, I guess that's just the way it is.

Happy Hump Day.

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