As a 'twenty-something' year old myself, I have learned that there are many of us who are the same age, but at totally different spots in our lives. Some people you will be able to relate to, some people you won't. However, the thing that we all have in common, is that we are just trying to figure out who the hell we actually are.
The Broken Workaholic
You've been hurt, and not by someone that you got over a week later. You were hurt by someone that you loved with every fiber in your body, you thought that you were going to marry them, you thought that the money you were saving was going to go towards your dream wedding, your honeymoon, or maybe your future children. Then one day you woke up and without warning, they left you. They left, and moved on faster than you ever imagined moving on. You tried sleeping the pain away, but when that didn't work, you buried yourself in the only thing else that you loved...your career. You started working early mornings and late nights, then found yourself years later, still working, just to keep the pain away.
The One to Wed
You found them. You knew it would happen in your twenties but you didn't know when. You met them at a coffee shop, in a bar, or bumped into them in your favorite authors aisle at the bookstore. You met, you matched, and you knew that there was no more wondering about your biological time clock, because you had found the one, right there in your twenties. They make you laugh, but even better, they laugh at your jokes. You smile because it's everything that you had ever wished for, but more. You tell everyone how much your best friend means to you and how you cannot wait to spend the rest of your lives with them. You find yourself, flipping through wedding magazines, lining up your bridal party, and pinning an obnoxious amount because you have waited for this day for atleast the past 10 years.
The One with One on the way
You're scared. You're happy. You're emotional, but can't believe that you have something so crazy and beautiful inside of you. You were timid to tell anyone at first because what would they think, you're only in your twenties. Was it too soon? Or were you technically behind everyone else. You find yourself thinking of names, forwards and backwards, inwards and outwards, and day dreaming about clothes, colors of the nursery and even what sports they'll play when they get older. You are glowing, your significant other is glowing. You're young, but being 'twenty-something' is old. You're ready. You start budgeting for diapers, for formula, and you start planning what your life will be like just a few months away.
The one who will plan on having a glass of wine but drinks the whole bottle
You're single, and the only steady relationship you have is with your netflix account. You don't necessarily hate it though. You enjoy being alone, listening to indie music and dancing around in your socks and underwear when you get home at night. You plan on only drinking a glass of wine, then Nick and Jess break up on New Girl, so you obviously had to reason with this. You look around and you see everyone getting married, or starting a family, or taking off in their dream job, and you sometimes feel like maybe you don't have life figured out yet. Sometimes you feel left behind, like that maybe you aren't worthy of a happiness like that. However, other times, you love that you can lay sideways in your bed and not worry about someone snoring to keep you awake. You aren't sure what you want, but you enjoy taking it day by day, it'll all fall into place one day, right?
We are all so different, but all the same. We think that rushing through life, meeting these milestones are so important at a certain age, but we all age differently. There is no specific age that one has to be to buy a dog, have a baby, get a ring on their finger, or be VIP at their favorite bar. I think we all just need to be a little bit easier on ourselves, because let's be honest, we have no idea what we are really doing.
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