I know I am not alone when I say that there are things in my every day life that I don't even understand why I have kept around as long as I have. I don't think that being 24 is old, but I do think that it is an age that you can start deciding to remove unwanted bull shit if it's not an asset to your life. Recently, I have found myself thinking about removing things that just exist in my life for no real purpose. This got me thinking about different things that I have kept close to me, which has lead to self sabotage. If you're with me on this, maybe we should all do a self cleanse.
Shitty 'Friends'
We all have them, hopefully you only have/had one. Shitty friends are the worst, and really hard to let go of. They are the people that take and take and take from you, but really give you nothing in return. It's not like they really add anything to your life, but you want them there, and the fact that they could care less to have you in theirs, makes it that much harder to understand. For however long that you let it go on, you pour your energy into these friendships hoping that one day, they'll realize how good of a friend you are to them. Spoiler alert, the thing that is so shitty about these friends, is that they are so self involved, that they don't even realize when there is something good in front of them. Unlike you, they don't find the people that they surround themselves with indispensable...they go through life, considering those people who put up with their shit, their friends. I used to think that friendships were all about quantity. That by the number of people that I had with me at all times somehow deemed me to be a better person. Quality, not quantity, has become very important to me in my friendship circle. While maybe at the end of the day I only have a handful of people I actually trust or care about, I know that those people would go just as far as I would for them, to have me in their life. That's important.
Cheap Alcohol
As I get older, it doesn't matter if I drink a little or a lot, if it is cheap and I put even a dab of it into my body, I will be hanging over a toilet for the next 24 hours. Cheap alcohol was okay in college when you were drinking every night and it's really all you could afford. However, you're an adult now, so if you walk into the company Christmas party with a case of Natti Light and Burnettes vodka, your coworkers will probably wonder why you haven't left your 21 year old self behind. Also, there is such a wonderful world out there of craft beers and distilled bourbon, there is no reason you should be limiting yourself that way. Thank me later.
Not enough time
I am guilty of this, but I am definitely working on it. To say that you don't have enough time to do something, is just an excuse because you really don't want to do it. I used to be the person who said she didn't have time to go to the gym, now I wake up at 5 a.m. An important thing that we should always make time for, and I am working on this myself, is time with family. Realize that if you are getting older, so are your parents, and grandparents, and that spending as much time with them as you possibly can is important, because one day you will wish that you did. It may be hard to actually drive to see them everyday, but atleast give them a phone call, I know that calling my parents 5 times a day annoys the hell out of them, but secretly they love it...and if they don't well, sorry Mom and Dad. :)
Settling for less than butterflies and all that romance stuff
WHY. I don't think I'll ever understand people who get into relationships because they are "bored." First off, when I am bored I go for a run, read a book, watch a movie...not just lead someone on because hey, it seems like a fun thing to do at the time. WHAT. So many of my friends tell me, "I mean I'm not really into them now, but I'm sure once we are together for a few months it'll grow on me." This is when I look at them blankly and think what the actual hell. I am all for love stories. You wouldn't know it but I secretly obsess over romance novels and movies. I can't get enough of the whole love at first sight, i'll do anything for you type thing. I think it's so magical, and I know that it exists. So, what I don't understand is why people believe that they aren't good enough for that. Because settling for someone that isn't everything you have ever dreamed of, well you are pretty much telling yourself, "hey sorry self, you can't meet your own expectations, you literally suck, have fun being miserable."
Let's all take a step back and look at our lives. Are their people or things consuming your every negative thought? Let it go. It sounds cliche, but life is way too short for all the extra bull shit. We are all trying to make it in this crazy world, trying to survive, and make ourselves better people. How are we supposed to do any of that if we keep allowing ourselves to not take on every day at our full potential?
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