There is always someone who gives you 'butterflies.' Whether it was the man in front of you at Starbucks this morning, the guy you met on Tinder yesterday, or maybe a boyfriend you've had for several months now. As humans, we are all set out for three things, happiness, romance and fun.
Just a few months shy of 25, I will be the first to share that I have had my fair share of "Mr. Right Now's." As I have gotten older I have realized that my age has coorelated the men/boys that I have chosen over the years, and looking back, I don't regret a single one.
Sometimes, I feel so thankful to have met my first, second and third love all between the ages of 17 and 23. Because of this, by the age of 24, I have become more aware of what I want in the man that I intend to marry. Marriage, woof. That word literally makes me want to puke right now, not because I'm not ready, but because so many of my friends are.
At 17, he was the guy I stood on the sideline and cheered for at football games. The guy I sat next to in the church pew on Sunday mornings, spent almost everyday with his family, and got to really know him, without the interference of alcohol or social media. At 17, I experienced a lot of firsts, but that was what he was put in my life for. To show me that if a boy can love as much as he did, a man is bound to love a little more.
At 21, I met the right guy at the wrong time. Loved him, loved his family, loved his dogs, loved his truck...at 21, what else did you really need to love? He took me out on romantic dates to look at stars in the back of his truck, wanted to show me off to all of his friends, and every time he saw me, his face would light up. He once told me after I kissed him goodnight, that "he knew I was the one because before I left him at night, I'd hug him like I would never see him again." As all Mr. Right Now's do, he decided to live out his dream with someone else.
At 23, I fell in love with a guy under neon lights, and after way too many fireball shots and him telling me that I was pretty, I had found my new Mr. Right Now. This guy, is what you would call my college sweetheart. He literally made life more fun, but at the same time, we were so toxic for each other, it made all of our friends hate us. I loved him for all of the wrong reasons, as he did the same. Mr. Right Now's tend to do that.
I am fortunate enough to know the difference between the two. Between the guy I want to take home to meet my family, and the guy I want to take home to meet my roommate, who literally loves everyone.
After being single for 2 years, I have started to realize how important it is to not settle. So many of us find someone who pacifies our time, maybe makes us laugh, or gets us off every now and then, but what about the long run? What about the guy who will look at you, even on your sickest days, and be ready to stand by your side.
I see so many of my friends in relationships that, 5 times out of 10, they don't really want to be in. (Side note: I do have some friends who really are happily in love.) But what I am getting at, is that it really shouldn't be that complicated. Whether they are your Mr. Right Now, Mr. Four Months or Mr. Forever.
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